I know all the right ways to remain connected: trips to visit people, frequent phone calls when I can't be there in person, Facebook/Twitter/text messages for those times between phone calls. Yet I find myself avoiding the phone and making up excuses as to why I shouldn't call - not enough time to talk, not enough energy, nothing to chat about, they might be busy, wrong time of the month, the list goes on. I don't plan trips because it might become too expensive. I don't post comments on strange blogs because they might not be appreciated.
Yet if I want friends and family to visit, if I want to be able to visit them, and if I want to ever build new friendships, I have to work harder at this whole connecting thing. I say connecting because that's how relationships are formed - two people find a connection in common, something worth preserving and sharing. Sometimes it's a common interest, sometimes it's a common purpose, sometimes it's a bloodline. And sometimes these connections strengthen and develop and turn out to be be, dare I say it again: love.
Or, as in my case, those connections start to fizzle and fade because I don't bother to make phone calls or plan trips or schedule plans with people. Or connections are never built because I don't bother to post comments, respond to texts, or retweet interesting posts. It's partially laziness, partially fear of rejection, partially a fear of not knowing what to say.
For the sake of love, it's time to pursue connections. A text message. A blog post. A phone call. And dare I imagine it - a trip to visit someone! I just need to reach out and be open to making that connection.